When I had my girl, the first grandchild in the immediate family. My husband and I seldom get chances to coax my girl. My In Laws always get to her first.
When I had my boy, I babysat him mostly as my In Laws were busy with my girl and my boy was a mummy’s baby. Three months later I had a little niece. She came over every weekday since she was four months old.
With three little terrors, I don’t get help as much. In Laws are too tired.